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When we must say no

Each day as they grow, we, as parents are faced with various decisions, some big, others small. Throughout my son’s years of taking the bus to and from school, he seldom had to do so without one of his sisters and or cousins. A few weeks ago, upon realizing that he now had to take the bus daily by himself in the mornings caused some adjustments for him. I remember him asking me to take him to school. After ensuring there were no other issues ( on the bus or at school) and realizing he was just having a little difficulty adjusting, I told him no. Tears filled both our eyes.

We were both feeling the change and had our own internal and external adjustments to make. I wanted to make it all better for my son. However, I knew this experience was needed in order for him to adjust to his new morning routine of taking the bus without a family member. When the bus came, my heart sank, I told him to dry his tears. He looked at me with sad but determined eyes before opening the screen door and walking across the street, slowing to the bus. … I remember, after the bus left, calling my husband crying but knowing I had made the right choice and he agreed.

A couple weeks later, when this picture was taken, I watched as my son, walked briskly with a posture of confidence across the street to the school bus. Again, my heart sank and tears filled my eyes but this time, they were happy tears. I realized he had come to accept his new morning travel on the bus. My baby boy, mi wash-belly, is growing up!

It also affirmed for me that I had made the right decision that morning when he asked me to take him to school and I said, no. It was a no we both needed. As parents, we navigate through parenthood at times not knowing if the decisions we made/make were/are the right ones. Nonetheless, we must do our best to make them. Celebrate and learn from the right ones. Reevaluate and learn from the wrong ones. We can’t fix everything for our children. We are charged with raising them to stand on their own, with us and them knowing without a doubt that we are there watching, protecting, forever ready to defend… we must slowly let them go…

there are times when we must say no…

#encourage #motivate #inspire #miwashbelly #onlyson

By Cynthia Lincke

I'm WOMAN: christian, wife, mother, social worker, educator, author, entrepreneur, philanthropist, aspired entrepreneur philanthropist, I have the unique task of looking through various lenses, affording me numerous experiences, through these various positions.

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